OMG the tampon YES! Why aren't there tiny bins in every bathroom! then we wouldn't have to put them in our bag, or in my case pocket. I was on holidays with the (former) in-laws and MIL did the washing. guess what was still in my pocket? Same former MIL was the type who would suggest that we have a working bee at my house to clean the windows. Great holiday that one :)
I know exactly what you mean about all the conflicting advice on socials. It's a lot. I can't imagine what it's like for parents today like yourself. I experienced a bit of it through blog posts back when my kids were, well, kids, but not nearly the same amount of info being thrown around now. (Although, being able to send my MIL a TikTok on why you don't feed kids solid food at 6 weeks anymore may have come in handy back then. :) )
And yes - def interested in Strife info. Congrats! Exciting.
Look forward to watching season 2 of strife. I could watch Asher Keddie walk up and down my screen with a pensive look and not say much and I’d still watch as she’s fantastic. I’d be keen to hear now that you’re out of the grind and weekly podcasts are you missing it? Was fab to hear you a few weeks ago filling in on out loud.
OK, love the rebrand. Trying is hard and mortifying, yes, but you nailed it. (I recently did a new logo on my Sub and wanted to hide under a rock once I'd pushed it live, which wasn't helped by the fact that my husband was clearly only pretending to like it. Also a Canva job. Canva is harder than it looks.)
I think you're spot on about instincts, and I've been thinking a lot about this recently too. I've actually stopped going onto Instagram as I found it was polluting my instincts – there's just too much info on there, and when it doesn't work for my kids I find myself feeling like a total failure, even though they're happy and thriving and constantly follow me around the place telling me they love me. I've actually just pledged to give up on gentle parenting altogether after being conned into it by social media – there's just too much pressure to be perfect all the time, sometimes we need to trust our instincts to let our kid have the tantrum, to just walk away, pop the kettle on, scream into a pillow and return when they're ready to crack on with their day. I'm already much happier and it's only been a few days.
My instincts told me to eat an entire packet of Oreos in under 15 minutes last night, too, so they're not always spot on but you know, a work in progress.
By letting go of gentle parenting, I don't mean I'm going to go full villain mode, just to be clear. Will still be a kind parent, just won't keep trying to overexplain everything to my kids 24 hours a day in the name of being gentle 😅
On the topic of losing our instincts, I had a midwife tell me that she had to tell me what the current advice was BUT that she also needed me to trust my gut because in the age of endless access to information new mothers have lost their instinct and that for all the generations before us instinct was enough to get us to this point. I have to say, I think she hit the nail on the head. I parent much better when I trust my gut and go with the flow as opposed to trying to get it right (by the Internets standards) 100% of the time
Omg I have so many thoughts about the postpartum period and instincts… breastfeeding especially. I feel like sometimes the process gets interrupted with too much conflicting information 😞
Hard agree. And I found that no matter what I did, someone would always tell me there was a better way. I will say though, that it was a humbling experience and I am much kinder with my advice now, especially when new mums ask me what I think...so much depends on your baby, they're born hardwired and we have to learn to adapt to the child we have (as opposed to the child society thinks we have).
I love the rebrand! I also watched Conclave on the weekend. Great outfits, a touch too much red for my liking 😅 I feel you on the instincts. It feels like we double guess ourselves while also not being allowed to *not* have an opinion on something (everything).
My friend said to me today, when do we know our bodies feel good? I lived with coeliac disease for a long time before being diagnosed and when I stopped eating gluten I almost immediately felt better, less bloated, no incessant itchy but I just think when our own bodies are all we know, then what does real good feel like? Strong, awake, alive, fit, healthy, thoughtful, social, connected? Does it have to be all the things all the time?
I’d be interested in more info on strife - for sure.
I'd love insider gossip about Strife and Mamamia!
All the goss about Strife and Mamamia please! Jessie was very sweet talking about you on the pod cast last week, what an amazing bond you have
OMG the tampon YES! Why aren't there tiny bins in every bathroom! then we wouldn't have to put them in our bag, or in my case pocket. I was on holidays with the (former) in-laws and MIL did the washing. guess what was still in my pocket? Same former MIL was the type who would suggest that we have a working bee at my house to clean the windows. Great holiday that one :)
Yes for Strife gossip 😀
This was great!
I know exactly what you mean about all the conflicting advice on socials. It's a lot. I can't imagine what it's like for parents today like yourself. I experienced a bit of it through blog posts back when my kids were, well, kids, but not nearly the same amount of info being thrown around now. (Although, being able to send my MIL a TikTok on why you don't feed kids solid food at 6 weeks anymore may have come in handy back then. :) )
And yes - def interested in Strife info. Congrats! Exciting.
Look forward to watching season 2 of strife. I could watch Asher Keddie walk up and down my screen with a pensive look and not say much and I’d still watch as she’s fantastic. I’d be keen to hear now that you’re out of the grind and weekly podcasts are you missing it? Was fab to hear you a few weeks ago filling in on out loud.
Love the rebrand Clare
I’m so tired, doing words is hard but I had to say that the bit about parenting and instinctual parenting fucking slaps. Hard agree.
OK, love the rebrand. Trying is hard and mortifying, yes, but you nailed it. (I recently did a new logo on my Sub and wanted to hide under a rock once I'd pushed it live, which wasn't helped by the fact that my husband was clearly only pretending to like it. Also a Canva job. Canva is harder than it looks.)
I think you're spot on about instincts, and I've been thinking a lot about this recently too. I've actually stopped going onto Instagram as I found it was polluting my instincts – there's just too much info on there, and when it doesn't work for my kids I find myself feeling like a total failure, even though they're happy and thriving and constantly follow me around the place telling me they love me. I've actually just pledged to give up on gentle parenting altogether after being conned into it by social media – there's just too much pressure to be perfect all the time, sometimes we need to trust our instincts to let our kid have the tantrum, to just walk away, pop the kettle on, scream into a pillow and return when they're ready to crack on with their day. I'm already much happier and it's only been a few days.
My instincts told me to eat an entire packet of Oreos in under 15 minutes last night, too, so they're not always spot on but you know, a work in progress.
By letting go of gentle parenting, I don't mean I'm going to go full villain mode, just to be clear. Will still be a kind parent, just won't keep trying to overexplain everything to my kids 24 hours a day in the name of being gentle 😅
Definitely interested in the Strife goss
On the topic of losing our instincts, I had a midwife tell me that she had to tell me what the current advice was BUT that she also needed me to trust my gut because in the age of endless access to information new mothers have lost their instinct and that for all the generations before us instinct was enough to get us to this point. I have to say, I think she hit the nail on the head. I parent much better when I trust my gut and go with the flow as opposed to trying to get it right (by the Internets standards) 100% of the time
Omg I have so many thoughts about the postpartum period and instincts… breastfeeding especially. I feel like sometimes the process gets interrupted with too much conflicting information 😞
Hard agree. And I found that no matter what I did, someone would always tell me there was a better way. I will say though, that it was a humbling experience and I am much kinder with my advice now, especially when new mums ask me what I think...so much depends on your baby, they're born hardwired and we have to learn to adapt to the child we have (as opposed to the child society thinks we have).
I love the rebrand! I also watched Conclave on the weekend. Great outfits, a touch too much red for my liking 😅 I feel you on the instincts. It feels like we double guess ourselves while also not being allowed to *not* have an opinion on something (everything).
My friend said to me today, when do we know our bodies feel good? I lived with coeliac disease for a long time before being diagnosed and when I stopped eating gluten I almost immediately felt better, less bloated, no incessant itchy but I just think when our own bodies are all we know, then what does real good feel like? Strong, awake, alive, fit, healthy, thoughtful, social, connected? Does it have to be all the things all the time?
YES!! We have no control group - we only have how we feel.
All art has something to say, and this rebrand says, "Meaning is a construct." Huge day for the philosophy majors.